The Many Faces of Love… ~2~

Once upon a time, there was a boy. He brought a smile to the face of everyone who met him. He never had to talk, just the happiness that shone in his eyes was enough. He had a dream one night, and he loved it. He loved it so much, he decided to never let go of it, and chase it down even if it took him all day. As the days passed, it didn’t seem any closer, but he still battled on. He had many dreams after that one. Some came true, some didn’t but he never felt so much restlessness for the other dreams, as he felt for that one.

One day, his parents told him, “If you love someone, let them go. If they were meant for you, they will return, otherwise, they were never yours in the first place.”

He thought on it. Maybe it was a person they were talking of. Not his dream. But his parents had told him it was meant for life in general. And his parents were wise. Shouldn’t he listen to them? Yes, he decided. And let go of the dream. Let it slip through his fingers, even though his heart told, “Hold on. Don’t let go. Your hands are just about to grip it.” He decided, it wasn’t worth dreaming. He took a dream his parents always talked of, and chased that. But his heart wasn’t with him a 100 percent. A few years into his journey, his old dream resurfaced. And he was so happy, he held on to it without a second thought.

So much love involved, isn’t it? The boy loved his dream, and chased it. The boy loved his parents, and loved them so much, he chose their dream ahead of his own, and then when the old dream he loved returned, he loved that even more too. So often, we think that a dream is but a dream. We see it one night, and it loses meaning once we awaken. But it isn’t so. It lasts a long time, and we dream it because our heart loves it and decides to show it as a right path to us.

But what’s the path for the boy now? Should he chase his dream, or the one his parents had seen for him? What if his parents continue to see their dream, and not his? Is it love that makes them push their dreams into his, even when he puts his dream to the front, now that he knows its return means it was his from the moment he saw it?


The Many Faces of Love… ~1~

“If you love someone, let them go. If they were meant for you, they will return, otherwise, they were never yours in the first place.”

This has been said and read so much that it would be engrained in many minds, that it would be the first thing anyone might say to someone who has just had their heart broken.

But is it that easy? Of course not. Maybe to say, but not actually to do. And no, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a “romantic” love that you need to let go at times. There is love in friendship, but to build it over years and then suddenly, one fine day, say “I’m sad, and I need to be alone to solve it, so please understand me, and go away” is not at all easy. Not for the one who says, or for the one who does. In such a case, does that saying make any sense? If you were close, and you never felt the need to be alone, or let go of them because you loved them for so many years, why suddenly let go? Over the years, it’s that love which has seen you through your highs and your lows, happiness and sadness… When you need that love the most, why the thought arises that you need to be alone to solve it? I can’t quite understand that line of thought at all.


It is a much debated issue as to when do we come to know that it truly is love and not infatuation. In short, how does one differentiate between infatuation and the real thing?

Here’s how. Patience. IF it’s infatuation, some day soon it will be lost OR becoming centric to one part of the person’s personality. Eg: You might like only the way (s)he talks or sings etc.  So if after a period of time you start to like one or more characteristics of a person you can rest assured it is not love.

There’s another important lesson here. We cannot ‘love’ a person for his qualities. This is best explained by the line, ‘ If you can find a reason for your love for someone, then it is not love’. And that’s true. Love is a complete package and if one is able to break it into components it is not going to last.

This is simply for the reason that the other person is bound to change someday, no one stays the same in any aspect throughout their life. And when that change comes, what happens to your love?

So all those people, who say that you love the other person BECAUSE…………. face the light, it’s not love. Here’s an example to prove my point : For someone who says I love the other person for the way I am important to that person and the way (s)he cares for me; there will be days that the two of you will have fights or the other person may be unable to give you time and importance for some reason. And yes, such a time WILL come. So then would you stop loving?

Think about it.